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Making To Do Lists for the Spirit
It's that time of year again - running from pillar to post in
order to collapse at the finish line with your List marked DONE! To Do List for the Spirit For Myself - With My Partner - With My Family - With My Friends Under "For Myself" goes everything you keep saying you want to do when you get the time. It includes all possibilities, from long, steamy bubble baths, to an evening with the novel you bought six months ago, to a hike up the nearest mountain, to a class you'd like to take, to a recipe you want to try, or to a trip to a spa. Everything. "With My Partner" is the column for planning enjoyable time with your significant other. This could also be wide-ranging, from having breakfast together to planning a cruise. Day trips into the city, tennis lessons, week-end getaways, DVDs to rent - plan something for just the two of you. "With My Family" involves people you're related to and would like to spend more time with. Here is where you put ideas for events for the whole family to do together or with one or two others: taking your children our for a meal individually, so you can give them special attention, or inviting an aunt or uncle to join you; possibly you could plan a family reunion, a game of Monopoly, or a Sunday drive, or a trip to Disney World. "With My Friends" identifies the people other than family members you would like more contact with. Can you plan an evening out with someone? A joint vacation? More frequent phone connections or email? Meeting for coffee one day a week? Now here is the critical point: This list is just as important as your other to-do lists. Of course, many of us have been conditioned not to even think about this list until The Other Ones are completed, but you probably already know the truth about that myth. You will never, ever reach the bottom of your daily to-do list, and if you wait to take care of yourself until you do, you will be in quite a sorry state. To feel balanced, you need to integrate the two lists, or at the very least pick one from each column of the Spirit List to do each week. Because the truth is, it's generally not how busy we are that creates problems; it's what we're busy doing. When we feel out of balance, we start experiencing frustration or resentment, and only by giving attention to the things we miss can we start to feel whole again. This isn't an easy thing to balance in December. But if you're aware of what's missing and what would make you feel better in a month of doing for others, you at least have the opportunity to fit in small activities wherever possible. For instance, which column in your life would you say needs the most attention right now? Would you love more time alone? With your partner? Would you like more quality time with your kids, parents, siblings or friends? Whatever jumps out at you is where you should focus your attention first. Remember, it's not a question of whether you deserve the time to do these things. You don't "earn" time for fun. Taking care of your personal and social needs is a must, and it's what makes everything else doable. I've found, though, that even when we make time to take care of ourselves, we're often quick to sacrifice it if someone else seems needier. One way to keep a check on this tendency is to mark your "Time to Take Care of Me" hours with a yellow highlighter in your planner book or on your calendar. Call it your SunBeam Time. This is your special block of time, and every day that you give it up is a statement that the needs of other have taken precedence. During the holidays that may become a necessity, I know, but it shouldn't be the rule if you can help it. SunBeam Time becomes particularly important during the winter months of the year. When natural sunshine is limited, you have to create it yourself. And it's amazing how the opportunities appear once you start paying attention. I wish you much happiness this season, and hope that you will
make an intention to include your To Do List for the Spirit.
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